One thing that I've recognized now, after going out on dates with some men who have normal jobs and are wonderful guys, is that I find talent sexy - and talented men are generally way more complicated than non-talented ones. Some women are attracted to really good-looking guys or powerful guys or rich guys, I've always been attracted to talent.
I'm not really sure how to tell the difference between a man that likes me for who I am, and a man that likes me for what it does for him to be with me. What I don't want is a man who doesn't hear me - who treats me as a beautiful and worthy object rather than for who I am.
I think I'm much, much more qualified to speak about what I don't want, because I know what eventually some of my relationships became. I need a guy that can withstand my awesomeness.īut I know what I don't want. I need something else now because I'm way more fabulous now than I was at 19. I don't know what I want because my husband was my soulmate for such a long time, and what he provided me at that time is no longer what I need. What am I looking for in a partner? Quite honestly, I don't know. I haven't adjusted to being a mature woman yet, so I'm a little silly probably. I keep being this weird teenager when it comes to dating because the last time I dated, I was a teenager. And now being out there dating again, what I'm realizing is that I'm not very good at it. I was just 19 when Ric and I became a couple I'm now 56, having celebrated my birthday just last week. In 2017, after nearly 30 years of marriage, we separated and were planning to get a divorce when Ric died suddenly in September 2019. Ric and I were married in 1989 and had two sons who are now in their 20s. I've spent most of my life with one guy: rocker Ric Ocasek of the Cars.